Feelings of inadequacy are an occupational hazard of caregiving. If the person you are caring for is someone you love, like your mother or father, you might feel like you can never do enough. So you pour yourself out. In addition to all the tasks that must be done, you look for opportunities to add joy to their day. But you find yourself simply not accomplishing that goal. So you try harder and harder, until you are in such a state of exhaustion, both physically and emotionally, that you’re not even able to accomplish the bare minimum, much less the lofty goal of selfless loving care.